Recently a new client said the following to me… “Being triggered, Ellie, c’mon, what’s there to love?!” In psychological terms, being triggered refers to an event occurring that initiates or precipitates a psychological and often physiological process. Could be someone yelling at you that, as a result, triggers your central nervous system and you begin to shake. There is a …
Given that I’m a Coach specializing in transformation, you can imagine that I hear a lot of stories around impossibility. Statements like: “I’ve read all the books, listened to all the audios and I just can’t focus my mind!” “I’ve done all the programs and I just can’t lose the weight.” Or, “I’m great at losing the weight for a …
I was invited last Sunday to an interview on CJAD 800 Life Unrehearsed with Corrie and Matt. The request was to talk about the hype around meditation and mindfulness and get clear about the benefits. So, I said, “Sure!” and off I went to their offices Sunday afternoon. It just happened to be Gay Pride Day in Montreal, which is …
Today I’d like to respond to a question that came from one of my readers: “Why is there so much tension in the relationships I have with the people I love the most? What can I learn to do to honour the love that is there and not get swamped by the challenges?” Great question! I’m sure many of us …
Whether you’re trying to change a bad habit, attract a new relationship, strengthen the one you have, persuade your boss of your ideas or just deal with the question of why you live in such a god-forsaken cold tundra (!), well-being seems to come as much from how you approach your experiences as it does from what is actually going …
I have a challenging time in front of me. The surprise kind. The no-way-you’ve-got-to-be-kidding-me kind. You know those ones?! We all experience them here and there. So, being the Mindset Mentor that I am, I am going to share with you my process for dealing with challenges, even the heavy kind. First of all, accept that it’s there. So many …
It’s a Saturday and I’ve booked off time to write. For whatever reason today I’m aware of how distracted I can be. Spring is trying to appear and I keep checking. I’m taken by a break in the clouds and stare at the blue formations, “Wow, I love that blue!” I see my barren back porch and daydream about what …
Some of you suffer from bouts of anxiety. Whether it’s forgetting an assignment, blanking on your boss’s name, managing the household, or not getting the results you want, you’ve all experienced that “choked” feeling. There are simple “tricks” that can help you. I came across a book by psychologist Sian Beilock, who wrote Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain …
“I just couldn’t stop myself from yelling at this guy!” “I could hear myself going on and on but I just couldn’t stop!” “I want to crawl up in a ball and die!” These are the phrases of someone who has been, to coin a popular phrase, “emotionally hijacked”. This is when you are triggered and you cannot stop thinking …
I was working with a client the other day. She was well into describing what went on in a recent discussion with her boss, “He was ignoring me in the meeting, then he walked past my office and didn’t even look in… he always looks in and nods at me or makes some gesture! I know something is up. He …
