“I just couldn’t stop myself from yelling at this guy!” “I could hear myself going on and on but I just couldn’t stop!” “I want to crawl up in a ball and die!” These are the phrases of someone who has been, to coin a popular phrase, “emotionally hijacked”. This is when you are triggered and you cannot stop thinking …
I was working with a client the other day. She was well into describing what went on in a recent discussion with her boss, “He was ignoring me in the meeting, then he walked past my office and didn’t even look in… he always looks in and nods at me or makes some gesture! I know something is up. He …
We last left our conversation where you were working on what you need to believe in order to have what you want and then choose to believe it. How did it go? Did you experiment? What showed up? Did you get confronted with more old beliefs? Did you inquire and see if those old beliefs are still a match to …
It’s really not enough to just contemplate change. You have to take action, and they must be action steps that lead you to where you want to go. In this article, I want to share with you some thoughts around what comes up when we want change to happen and what to do about it. We’ve been talking about the …
I’ve been noticing quite a few people talking about how disappointed they are in their lives, relationships or work. Disappointed that they haven’t achieved what they thought they would have achieved, or experienced what they thought they would have experienced “by now”. I can see how dragged down they are by these thoughts, losing momentum in their projects and relationships, …
The good thing is that I practice what I preach. The not-so-good-thing is that I hit some pain. Well, we’ll see if I’ll still call it a not-so-good-thing by the end of this article. Right now I have a condition. Not diagnosed completely yet, the doctors are guessing. It’s been with me for a number of years. I experience flare-ups, …
To set the stage, Calvin and Hobbes are sliding down a snowy slope on a toboggan. Calvin: Let’s try this path over here! Hobbes: I don’t see a path. Calvin: We’ll make a path! Hobbes: Huh boy! Calvin: Change is invigorating! If you don’t accept new challenges, you become complacent and lazy! Your life atrophies! Falling off a cliff… Calvin: …
I know that sometimes you feel strong negative emotions. What I would like you to understand is that when that is happening, it is pointless to try to cover it up with a bright, happy thought. Let’s use the analogy of tuning into a radio station to illustrate the point. When your radio signal is set on 107.9 FM you …
I’m going to be straight up. I’m writing this blog because I’ve been struggling with struggle! And what I did was “take it to the mat” as one of my good friends says, and I meditated on it. In my mind I looked at struggle straight on. Hmmmmm. And this is what I discovered. When you struggle, you are actually …
A couple of months ago, I wrote a blog suggesting our minds could be our magic wands. I got quite a few responses and discussions on this topic so I thought I would address what is coming up for many of you. The response below is just a typical example of the inquiries that came up: “Hi Ellie, I’m past …
