For so long, I would sweep my emotions under the rug and avoid dealing with difficult feelings that came up. I didn’t want to create conflict with my loved ones, and truthfully, I didn’t want to create conflict internally.
I was lucky enough to get some guidance from a wonderfully wise woman in my life to work with a therapist to learn how to process my emotions with grace and wisdom.
To this day, the process has been extremely beneficial and it has made me realize that emotional intelligence is a powerful ally in creating better health and wellness in all areas of my life.
Stepping into your feelings with vulnerability, love, and kindness can help turn your emotional compass into a friend, instead of a foe. That’s because the more you push the bad feelings away, the more power they seem to hold over you.
“Emotional Health” is an important aspect of the coaching programs I offer. We are so used to (and given permission to) giving attention and nourishment to physical health, it’s time we do the same for our emotional self. In fact, if you ignore emotions, which are an inseparable part of the human experience, and if you lack compassion for yourself and others, you can actually end up contributing to physical manifestations of dis-ease.
My approach to emotional wellbeing is all about helping you unlearn the limiting beliefs and emotional conditioning that have kept you from living the life you want.
So I want you to think about what emotions are you constantly pushing away? Do you always dwell on the past or worry about the future? And what beliefs do you have about your life that continue to hold you back?
Addressing these questions can lead to profound breakthroughs in your emotional intelligence, allowing you to better support your entire path to wellness.
Emotional intelligence, or the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions, has numerous connections to our overall wellbeing.
Research shows us it even has an important outcome on physical health. One study looking at the emotional health of patients with coronary heart disease (CHD) found that those with a lesser ability to regulate their emotions, such as anxiety, had a 76% higher likelihood of suffering from CHD.
Another study looked at several facets of emotional intelligence and how they correlated to physical, social, and psychological symptoms. It’s not surprising that those who were skilled at “mood repair” also showed greater physical, social, and mental health functioning, as well as a higher score for overall general vitality. This ability to overcome a sour mood has been linked to a lesser occurrence of health symptoms, less illness, and a better quality of life. “Clarity,” the concept of distinguishing between moods, is thought to allow people a greater chance to strengthen their “mood repair” abilities and has been linked to more positive mental and physical outcomes.
It’s clear that our emotional state can affect our physical one.
And if you have been reading my blogs for a while, you know that I often talk about how fear plays out in our lives. Fear can be a major emotional influence on your actions and level of contentment in life. Most of my life’s work is to coach others in resolving their personal history, overcoming negative emotions and fears, and aligning heart, mind, and action with their dreams. When we begin to understand ourselves from a different perspective of compassion, honesty, and humor, we can break through limiting feelings and gain a deeper understanding of working with our emotions instead of against them.
Now, with that said, we can all have bad days. We all get down sometimes, feel hurt, or even angry. Emotional health is not about eliminating all of these unpleasant feelings and living in a forced state of happiness all the time, it’s about allowing the negative emotions to be present, recognizing their source, and knowing how to cope with them. You can then move on with a better understanding of yourself and others.
Nurturing your emotional health not only benefits your overall wellness, it benefits those around you as well.
If you’re ready to prioritize your emotional intelligence and see the positive impacts it will have on your wellbeing, I invite you to do 2 things:
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