I’ve been noticing quite a few people talking about how disappointed they are in their lives, relationships or work. Disappointed that they haven’t achieved what they thought they would have achieved, or experienced what they thought they would have experienced “by now”. I can see how dragged down they are by these thoughts, losing momentum in their projects and relationships, and losing connection to what inspires them to be sharing their gifts and talents. So in my Mindset Mentor-way, I look to what this contrast is pointing to, and that is…being content.
So let’s talk about what it means to be content.
A very simple and easy way to understand contentment is the following:
At the present moment, wherever you are is wherever you are meant to be, whatever you are doing is whatever you are meant to be doing and whatever everyone else is doing is what they are meant to be doing.
I suggest that in order to experience contentment for longer than a nanosecond, you need to become aware of all the things that make you dissatisfied. Go ahead make a list, or take one example for now.
The next step is to free yourself from the ideas, opinions, objects, or people that cause your discontent. You don’t have to reject them or distance yourself from them, but just create a detachment from them. My favorite way is to say, “I don’t like it, but I could be ok with it.” In this way, you emotionally and energetically bring yourself back to your inner freedom. You may feel a kind of stillness because you stop being dependent on anything or anyone outside of yourself.
Then notice what this discontent is telling you about what you really want. Use your example and get clear on what you desire.
It is only by understanding and accepting completely that everything is the way it is meant to be at every moment, both outside your mind and inside your mind that you move closer to being content. In this way you will touch contentment and experience it, which will in turn create more opportunity for you to move toward contentment more often.
This is one of the foundational pieces of cultivating fulfillment in your life.
Discontent is the first necessity of progress ~ Thomas A. Edison